God wants you to have a great family!
“One way to be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.” Anonymous
Being a connected parent plays an important part in creating positive memories in the lives of your children. So what does it mean to be a “connected parent”? Being connected means that you establish a rapport and a relationship with your child. What does it take to establish a rapport and build a relationship with your child? Parents need to initiate spending regular times together with their child (meal time, bed time, morning time, drive time, donut shop time). Be creative how you spend time together! Schedule weekly times to be together in places where conversation can flow naturally. Establish routines that build positive anticipation for your child, routines that include laughter and relaxation with no advice or lecture. Look for opportunities to talk about what’s going on in their week. For most teenagers the weekly topic would be relationships, there up’s and down’s. During these times of sharing make sure to provide focused attention and listen to the heart of your child. Don’t worry about what you are going to say next. Discover things that you share in common and enjoy those things together. Establishing rituals can create meaningful connection as well. One family I read about has a ritual where they share with each other nightly, one thing that made them mad, sad, and glad during their day. What kinds of rituals do you have as a family?
In the past four weeks the topic of family has been the focus for Student Ministry Wednesday Night FUEL. Check out the Student Life Blog and read more what your teenager has been learning at FUEL on the topic of family. This is one more way you can stay connected with your child.